(Updated from 01/14/2015) The first time I heard about this song and watched the video, I was uncomfortable. I had been taught to reject the stereotypes portrayed, and it was disturbing to see them …
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Frequently Asked Questions About Racism in the United States
(Re-posted from 01/15/2021) Not surprisingly, 2020 did not take with it the pandemic, rioting, and racism we wish would just go away. Racism is not going to disappear on its own. Open and honest …
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What Can We Do About Institutional Racism?
(Updated from 03/29/2021) I was honored to work with Christine Michel Carter of Health on an article about institutionalized racism. Disappointingly, much of what we discussed was cut from the …
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Four Things You Need to Know About Worker Misclassification
Each time I read an article that encourages readers to use independent contractors instead of employees to build their new businesses, I cringe. It's not that independent contractors are generally a …
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Should You Do Free Work for a Job Interview?
The short answer to your question is no--at least in New York State, where I am licensed to practice law. An interview is a discussion to see if an employer and employee are right for each other. …
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Learning to Let Go of Unhealthy Relationships Helps at Work, Too
(Updated from 11/19/2019) When I was asked by Upjourney how to let go of someone you love and move on, I knew the writer had intimate partner relationships in mind. Many of the most popular …
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Supporting Employees Struggling with Parent Conflicts
(Updated from 08/14/2019) When I was asked by NBC News' Nicole Spector how parents can mend broken relationships with their grown children, I was still grieving the loss of my mother. Yet I …
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Helping Upjourney Readers Write an Apology Letter
(Updated from 06/18/2021) Having contributed to prior Upjourney articles on apologies and letting go, I was recently asked how to write an apology letter to a friend. This is my …
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Five Things to Know About Jerks (and Rapists, Addicts, Sexists, etc.)
TRIGGER WARNING: This post contains what I think are some "inconvenient truths". It is likely to make you very uncomfortable. It makes me uncomfortable, too. Please remember that you do not have to …
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Ten Tips for Working Well with Third Ear Conflict Resolution
(Updated from 07/17/2017 post) Because I am often in court and handle legal actions daily, I sometimes forget that a large portion of the population rarely or never deals with lawyers. They might …
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