Holding on to a hurt that won’t heal?
Examples of Big Forgiveness:
- Kelly forgave her spouse’s abuse. They still divorced, yet amicably. The former spouses created a powerful co-parenting partnership, and River’s business is thriving.
- Whitney forgave her parents and sibling for rejecting her after she started dating (and eventually married) Cleo. Whitney is writing and singing again, while looking for her next big job opportunity. Her interviews are going well, and she’s being considered for a position she would not have thought she was qualified for.
- I forgave my abuser–multiple times. Each time, our relationship seemed to improve, but it never fully healed. There was no apology or admission. She would repeat abusive patterns. I forgave again, yet I eventually asked her not to contact me anymore. I still love her and want the best for her, but I do so from afar. I need not invest my limited time, money, and energy where it will not grow, especially when I have others more than willing to build mutually loving and supportive relationships.
Coaching is not therapy. In coaching, the focus is on action and creating your future. If you still need to explore your past and get some closure on traumatic experiences, the timing might not be right. Likewise, if you have a mental health diagnosis, you should discuss with your mental health professional whether coaching is appropriate. I am a licensed lawyer and certified to coach and mediate. I am not qualified to give medical, psychiatric, or psychological advice, but I can help you:
- Forgive people who have harmed you, so you are free
- Identify what’s stopping you from having what you want most
- Develop an action plan toward the life you’ve been afraid to pursue
- Keep you moving forward, regardless of the obstacles that appear