I get variations on this question a lot. Sometimes, I say something to the effect of, “Some people, who haven’t tried and benefited from Integrative Law, might have a difficult time imagining that it works. I invite them to try it, as there is very little risk, especially when considering the alternatives (e.g., continued litigation, lost relationships, attorneys fees, court costs, stress). I consider that these questions are based on misperceptions and fears, and I deal with them similar to when someone wishes me well for a holiday that I don’t celebrate. I’ll accept genuine good wishes anytime from anyone. I’ll also try almost anything that gets results. Won’t you?” Then, I give them examples of success stories.
One of my favorite success stories involves a call from a creative professional in a dispute with a collaborator on one of his projects. This professional called me because he was resigned about the project and thought his only choice was to sue. In his voice and choice of words, I heard immediately that he would prefer to finish the project; he still had a lot of respect for his strategic partner. They just had a breakdown in communication around the artistic direction of the project, and he didn’t know how to repair the relationship. I asked him if he would consider mediation and was okay with me teaching out to the other party. I did. They were.
In preparation for the mediation, I had them watch a video about my Third Ear Conflict Resolution process. They called me back, not with the potential mediation dates, but asking me to draft the new agreement. This was the best result for these clients under the unique facts, circumstances, and interests of their dispute. Isn’t that what we want for them?