What Makes You a Winner?

“I got the worm!” I thought in a vague, Facebook post format. I was proud of myself for getting up early to make a trip down to the less expensive grocery store, where I could spend $20.00 to $30.00 less than if I had gone to the market near me. I was the early bird.

Inside, I was saying, “Look at me. I’m a winner!” Then, I realized how smug I felt as I compared myself to the people still sleeping off their hangovers or lounging in their pajamas and watching television. I had been living my life as though there was a limited supply of “worms” and that if I didn’t get up early to claim mine, I’d starve.

As children, we don’t learn about the noon rain shower that greeted the late sleepers and flooded the sidewalk with worms. We aren’t told about the bird feeders, human or mechanical. We aren’t told what to do if we get up early and are beaten to the first known worm. We just hear that we’re not the applauded and hunger-less early bird. We are lazy losers who deserve to starve.

Or are we? According to the USDA website, a square yard of cropland in the United States can contain 50 to 300 earthworms. Since it’s unlikely there will be 50 birds on that square yard, there’s a good chance that any bird really committed to finding a worm will indeed find one.

Lynne Twist speaks about the lie of scarcity and about Futurist Buckminster Fuller in her audio book, Unleashing The Soul of Money. Fuller taught that there are enough resources now for everyone in the world to have food, clothing, and shelter. The challenge is in redistribution. We must trust that if we share our resources with each other, there will be enough for us and our loved ones. We must resist the urge to hoard, gorge, and overindulge. We must not seek abundance, which is more than we need; we must seek “abundant sufficiency”–for everyone. When we achieve this, we are all winners.

What can you do today to be this kind of winner?

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is an attorney, mediator, and conflict resolution coach based in New York City. She is the founder of The Law Studio of Nance L. Schick, where she and her team of employees, vendors, and strategic partners deconstruct conflict and re-create it as opportunity, using a holistic, integrative approach. Nance resolves conflict and cultivates leaders, using her EEOC training, as well as her proprietary Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, which is described in more detail in her first book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master. She is also an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (2013 Pitch Competition finalist).