Take Care of You Regardless of How You’re Viewed

The Conflict

I left my yoga class because [I perceived that] a rude woman judged me for not looking like a yogini and for using a foam mat to protect my injured knee, rather than the typical sticky mat. I thought she was a substitute for my teacher and that she would not allow me to use the more cushioned mat. I realized as I was on my way out the door at high speed that she was not a teacher but a “butt-insky.” Yet I was too proud and stubborn to go back and tell her to mind her own business so I could enjoy the class. [Or to just ignore her.] Instead, I missed the rare lunchtime opportunity to ground and re-center my day. I mostly disagree with how I handled the situation, especially since I will probably never see Miss Nosy Pants again.

The Interests

  • I wanted to go to the class to re-energize.
  • I thought it would get me back on track in an otherwise low-energy day.
  • I expected to come back relaxed and peaceful.
  • I dislike people who think they are better than me merely because they have the right clothes, equipment,and look.
  • I want to be respected for who I am and what I can do, not whether I look like I can do it.
  • I hate cliques, judgment, prejudice, snobbery, and the hypocrites who think they are peaceful simply because they go to yoga class.
  • I am annoyed by know-it-alls, although I recognize their need for attention.
  • I want to be left alone in the gym unless I am doing something that might cause harm to myself or someone else.

The Possibilities

Ideally, I would go to class and do what I need to do to take care of myself without anyone interrupting me. I know my body better than anyone, and unless a certified instructor or other acceptable expert has a tip, I will make my own decisions. I will come out of class renewed, revived and ready to tackle the rest of the day.

The Future

I will go to my classes, get my exercise, stretch my aching muscles, and allow good energy to flow in and through me–regardless of who attends the class with me. I will not take it personally that someone else in the class feels competitive or otherwise attempts to steal my energy. I will remember that her issues have nothing to do with me, even if they are manifesting themselves in front of or around me.

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is a mediator, and conflict resolution coach based in New York City, where she works with creative professionals, entrepreneurs, human resources professionals, labor managers, risk managers, and executives to generate results beyond the boundaries of their imaginations. She is committed to creating a unified human race by empowering people to have lives they forgot were possible.