I recently reflected on a story about how many hidden biases interfered with a relationship I had briefly in high school. Racist thoughts and beliefs had been taught by the people around me and the …
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My Ex-Boyfriend Dated a Racist*
It had been another tense ride home. As he drove, we both focused our eyes on the road. Why was dating so hard? We both liked each other. We went to the same school, shared many friends, and were on …
Do You Want Equality or Control?
A client reminded me this week that the United Nations was concerned about increasing acts of racism in the United States and Europe back in 2017. I was the Main Representative to the UN for a …
What is Mediation?
Mediation is a private conflict resolution process in which the parties in dispute co-create an enforceable agreement settling the dispute, with the help of a neutral third-party. You might choose …
Five Actions to Take When You’re the Target of Sexual Harassment
As I've mentioned before, I have experience with sexual harassment from several angles. I have provided legal counsel to parties during their sexual harassment claims. I have investigated and mediated …
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Five Lessons I’ve Learned About Motivating Myself
Especially during the first two weeks of the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, I had a difficult time accessing that focused and motivated professional I prefer to be. First, I was in shock by the …
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Seven Choices to Make When You’re the Target of Sexual Harassment
When I entered the workforce, I thought sexual harassment was just part of what I had to endure. And I did. Co-workers amused themselves in the kitchen of the fast-food restaurants by talking about …
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Five Reasons to Be Good To Your Employees
It still shocks me when I hear some of the employment horror stories people endure. Even in states and countries where there are substantial worker protections, we occasionally learn about an employer …
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Why Is Sexual Harassment a Hot Topic?
I first learned that I was protected from sexual harassment in the workplace when I went to work at United Parcel Service in 1988. I had already been working since I was 12 years old--when my mom got …
Listen FOR Not Just TO Others
"We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." --Epictetus (Greek philosopher) Have you ever found yourself frustrated during a conversation by the other person’s …