201711.06
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I Am Not the Label You Give Me

I am complex and multifaceted. I have many titles and wear many hats. That’s okay. I give others permission to be diverse, too. We all are more than our job titles, more than our family roles, more than our locations, political parties, temporary interests, hobbies, vacations, hairstyles, clothing, or furnishings. We are all of the…

201710.30
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Which of the Seven Choices Aren’t You Making?

In Chapter Two of my book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master, I discuss the transtheoretical model (“TTM”) of behavioral modification. Before I started researching the science behind the effectiveness of mediation and my Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, I simply understood that I was choosing many of the experiences…

201710.23
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FAQ: How Do You Choose Your Blog (Blawg) Content?

I choose what I think will empower you, often because it inspires and empowers me or someone I am coaching. It’s a bit strange, isn’t it, to see poetry and coaching tools on a lawyer’s website. It’s probably not what you are expecting. Yet it is our expectations that often get us into trouble. Expectations…

201710.09
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FAQ: How Do I Know If a Case is Right for Mediation?

First, consider the parties. Is there more than one? How are they getting along? Are they generally reasonable, yet stuck on one or more issue? What result are they seeking, win-lose or resolution and closure? Mediation is often used in situations where: The parties to the conflict or dispute are having difficulty expressing their wants…

201710.02
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FAQ: What Does It Mean to Be a “Neutral”?

Neutrals are third-parties. They aren’t part of the dispute to be arbitrated or mediated, and they aren’t likely to be significantly impacted by any resolution the primary parties create. Unlike your mom, who benefited from a quiet home when you and your sibling stopped fighting, the neutral typically receives no direct benefit from the resolution…