Admittedly, I have a love-hate relationship with the title of Manson’s book. But it’s effective. It got my attention and made me uncomfortable because I care too much about things like this, which probably don’t matter very much. I suspect that is why my personal partner loaned me his copy of the book. It’s a…
I get sucked into the Internet and news abyss, too. A “quick check” for a Facebook status from an ill family member turns into 10 minutes (or more) of watching cats in funny hats ringing bells for food and smart dogs doing chores. (You just clicked the links, didn’t you?) It’s so much more interesting…
In honor of my first Mother’s Day without my mom, I share this essay I wrote in response to those who don’t understand why I left home to find my happiness. It’s okay that freedom is important to me. There’s nothing wrong with my sense of adventure or love of the world. I am Anita’s…
May brings many fun and beautiful things: flowers, the Kentucky Derby, Mother’s day, and the Choice #5 from my book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master: Clear your mind. Really. Do it right now. Stop thinking about the pain in your right leg or how uncomfortable you are. Don’t listen…
I have a “Rule of Threes”. It’s probably from my softball days: three strikes, three outs, etc. Or maybe because I have three sisters. There’s also the Holy Trinity, which I learned about in Catholic elementary school. And, of course, I created the Third Ear Conflict Resolution process. Three is a number I notice. When…
It’s natural for us to hide when we are struggling. We are afraid people will judge us for not being over traumatic experiences. We worry we will dampen their otherwise sunny worlds, assuming their worlds are perfect when ours are not. We fear their responses if we experience anger or sadness we can’t control, and…
As you might have figured out from following my posts, this is not the area I am most skilled in, at least where my sisters are concerned. This is a huge pain point for me, and it often has me questioning my identity and sanity. I’ve been to psychotherapy (more than once), completed the Curriculum…
As I often tell my workers’ compensation (“WC”) clients, whether they are claimants or employers, their cases will be determined primarily by the veracity of the medical evidence. The intent of the WC system is to ensure injured workers get the medical care they need to return to work (“RTW”), but let’s face it. That…
I used to coach a person who wanted to be an entrepreneur, but whose business was not generating sufficient income. “John” took full-time job, after full-time job, always finding fault with the people he worked for, soon after orientation and the honeymoon phase that begins while training. He was a reliable employee who often got…
By 2050, more than 20% of the world’s population will be 60 years of age or older. I will be 81 years old, and in some ways, I do not expect the world to be recognizable, much as it was unrecognizable to “Jane”, who died in February at the age of 88. Born in a…
