I am neither loser nor winner.
Neither is a permanent experience.
The only thing I am for this life
I have female body parts,
but they can be changed.
I can have blonde hair,
and smaller thighs.
None of these things are me.
Neither are my thoughts.
I can think I am a loser.
I can think I am a winner.
I can think I have all I need, or
I can think I am not enough.
My thoughts change constantly,
As do my feelings.
I can feel like I’m on top of the world, and
within seconds feel like I don’t belong in it.
I can feel love,
And then they go,
leaving me only with what I choose.
Nance L. Schick, Esq. is a New York City attorney and mediator who focuses on keeping people out of court and building their conflict resolution skills, especially in business and employment disputes. Her holistic, integrative approach to conflict resolution draws from her experience as a crime victim, human resources supervisor, minor league sports agent, and United Nations representative. She is a 2001 graduate of the State University of New York Buffalo Law School trained in Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA), and International Center for Ethno-Religious Mediation (ICERM). She is also creator of the Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, author of DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master, and an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by the New York Economic Development Corporation/B-Labs (Finalist, Best for NYC 2015 & 2016), U.S. Chamber of Commerce (2015 Blue Ribbon Small Business), Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (Finalist, 2013 Pitch Competition).