I am neither loser nor winner.

Losing happens.

Winning happens.

Neither is a permanent experience.

The only thing I am for this life

is human.

I have female body parts,

but they can be changed.

I can have blonde hair,

blue eyes,

darker skin,

larger breasts,

and smaller thighs.

None of these things are me.

Neither are my thoughts.

I can think I am a loser.

I can think I am a winner.

I can think I have all I need, or

I can think I am not enough.

My thoughts change constantly,

As do my feelings.

I can feel like I’m on top of the world, and

within seconds feel like I don’t belong in it.

I can feel love,






and hope,

almost simultaneously.

And then they go,

leaving me only with what I choose.

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is an attorney, arbitrator, and mediator based in New York City.
She is the founder of The Law Studio of Nance L. Schick. Her holistic, integrative
approach draws from her experience as a human resources supervisor, as well as her
legal and EEOC training. She is creator of the Third Ear Conflict Resolution process,
author of DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master, and an
award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by the New York Economic
Development Corporation/B-Labs (Best for NYC 2015 finalist), U.S. Chamber of
Commerce (2015 Blue Ribbon Small Business), Enterprising Women Magazine
(Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count
Me In (2013 Pitch Competition finalist). Most recently, she attained her certificate in
Ethno-Religious Conflict Mediation and now serves as the Main ICERM Representative
to the United Nations.