I Want to Know You

I want to ask you about your experiences.

I see your woven hair and dark, ageless skin.

I wonder if your confident smile was ever-present

And what you’ve overcome to keep it.

I want to understand how the world looks to you.

I hear the angry rap playing in your expensive headphones.

I wonder if your baggy pants and hoodie

Are your modern day armor.

I am curious about your head cover.

It brushed my arm when we entered the subway.

I wonder if it’s hot and confining

Or if you’re happy to not worry about your hair.

But I don’t ask

In fear I will be the subject

Of the next

“What to Never Say…” video.

So we remain separate

And fearful

Of each other

And ourselves.

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is an attorney, mediator, and conflict resolution coach based in New York City. She is the founder of The Law Studio of Nance L. Schick, where she and her team of employees, vendors, and strategic partners deconstruct conflict and re-create it as opportunity, using a holistic, integrative approach. Nance resolves conflict and cultivates leaders, using her EEOC training, as well as her proprietary Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, which is described in more detail in her first book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master. She is also an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (2013 Pitch Competition finalist).