I forgive you
for not being tall
I forgive you
for looking like him,
having his genes
which make you more susceptible to certain diseases and ailments.
I know you want love
just like I do
and are confused
that your best qualities aren’t seen as enough.
Even by me.
I sometimes love you for your athleticism,
and your combination of the parents we never knew together,
except as they occur in you
At other times,
I blame you
for the parts of my life that don’t work.
It’s a convenient excuse
for being tired,
You’ve always been with me,
sometimes more rapidly than I can keep up,
and too slowly when I want you to be
anything but me.
Nance L. Schick, Esq. is a New York City attorney and mediator who focuses on keeping people out of court and building their conflict resolution skills, especially in business and employment disputes. Her holistic, integrative approach to conflict resolution draws from her experience as a crime victim, human resources supervisor, minor league sports agent, litigant, and trial attorney. She is a 2001 graduate of the State University of New York Buffalo Law School trained in Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA), and International Center for Ethno-Religious Mediation (ICERM). She is also creator of the Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, author of DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master, and an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by the U.S. Chamber of Commerce (2015 Blue Ribbon Small Business), Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (Finalist, 2013 Pitch Competition).