Celebrate Even the “Hallmark Holidays” (in Your Own Way)

2000-01 Law School PortraitI originally wrote this article for my February 2008 Grayfiti Newsletter (TM), which was replaced by my blog, social media and a new monthly newsletter from The Law Studio. In the article, I gave my 2007 Highlights and invited readers to celebrate all of the little moments. Being very close to losing my mom–the only parent I have really ever known–and seeing so many women forgotten once they were placed in nursing homes, I was well aware of the fragility of life. I still am, yet I am in a much better place to see they abundance and prosperity now.

Regardless, it was fun to look back today on where I was more than seven years ago. As we approach Valentine’s Day, which often leaves us feeling inadequate in some way, I invite you to look back at your accomplishments, whether from 2007, last year or your entire life.

Here’s a quick summary of mine from 2007:

  • In March 2007, I was on an expert panel for the Women Entrepreneurs’ (“WE”) conference in Chicago, hosted by Country Living magazine. That conference has since been replaced by many other high-quality pitch competitions and conferences, including the Enterprising Women magazine awards and conference, where I would be speaking this year, if I didn’t have a trial on the second day.
  • In April 2007, I took my first vacation in nine years, attended my childhood best friend’s MBA graduation and visited my sister in Maui. (I had not seen her in more tha2009 Headshotn 20 years, and I sadly haven’t seen her since, although we keep in touch in a variety of other ways.) I also did a podcast with Janelle Elms, The eBay Queen, for her Online Success Institute.
  • In June 2007, I got the best birthday present yet: my mom’s doctor was wrong about her only lunch giving out. She’s still here, making me laugh and lighting my world!
  • In November 2007, I was audited by the IRS, but my meticulous record-keeping paid off and resulted only in a $205.00 adjustment. The auditor told me that if the adjustment is less than $200.00, they typically don’t penalize the taxpayer. So, they must have looked very hard to find that extra $5.00 to $10.00! But I didn’t mind too much. I appreciate many of the goods and services my tax payments support.
  • In December 2007, I was still operating my adaptive apparel company, THEBOA apparel, and we hosted three Day of Beauty events in three days! I was also interviewed for the Style segment on NBC’s Knoxville affiliate. I really wish I had asked for that video footage, but there will be plenty of video in the future. I’m working on a video marketing strategy for this summer or fall.

Nance L. SchickI had all but forgotten how much I accomplished that year, in the years leading up to it, and since then. I am certain you have had equivalent successes, although they might look better, more desirable or simply different than mine. Plus, you might be saying to yourself, “Yes, but I’ll still be alone on Valentine’s Day.” I propose that you will not be. Take your amazing, awesome self out or pick up a decadent dinner to enjoy at home. List your accomplishments. Call and reminisce about them with others who are not out celebrating a “holiday” that has become far more commercial than its origins. Invite them to share their successes, dreams and goals with you. Celebrate yourselves exactly as you are and in your own way. I will be celebrating you (and us), too. xo

If you’re feeling complete (because you are) and a bit courageous, consider downloading my friend Lori Cheek’s app and taking it for a spin. But only do this if you are experiencing your fabulousness, so you don’t end up attracting yet another incompatible mate. Remember your list of accomplishments! You’re a prize!

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is an attorney, mediator, and conflict resolution coach based in New York City. She is the founder of The Law Studio of Nance L. Schick, where she and her team of employees, vendors, and strategic partners deconstruct conflict and re-create it as opportunity, using a holistic, integrative approach. Nance resolves conflict and cultivates leaders, using her EEOC training, as well as her proprietary Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, which is described in more detail in her first book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master. She is also an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (2013 Pitch Competition finalist).