When I share authentically

with some people,

they stop listening to me.

They try to fix me.

I’m not broken,

even when I’m convinced I am.

Others don’t concern themselves at all

with me.

They talk over me

an focus only on their lives.

I could make that mean

they are self-absorbed jerks

and cut them out of my life.

Or I could remember the times

when I have been that person.

You have been, too.

Some people I love deeply

avoid talking about my struggles

or their own.

They look away from my tears,

possibly worried they have caused them.

They might trust me too little

or maybe too much.

It only means what I choose.

Nance L. Schick, Esq. is an attorney, arbitrator, mediator, and conflict resolution coach based in New York City. She is the founder of The Law Studio of Nance L. Schick, where she and her team of employees, vendors, and strategic partners deconstruct conflict and re-create it as opportunity, using a holistic, integrative approach. Nance resolves conflict and cultivates leaders, using her EEOC training, as well as her proprietary Third Ear Conflict Resolution process, which is described in more detail in her first book, DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master. She is also an award-winning entrepreneur, who has been acknowledged by the New York Economic Development Corporation/B-Labs (Best for NYC 2015 finalist), U.S. Chamber of Commerce (2015 Blue Ribbon Small Business), Enterprising Women Magazine (Honorable Mention, 2014 Woman of the Year awards), and Urban Rebound NY/Count Me In (2013 Pitch Competition finalist).