"Termination doesn't end a relationship. It merely transforms it. There's a long tail. Why not have it wag?" - Nance L. Schick
You're not getting what you want from your employer, strategic partner, or vendor. There could be a serious infraction such as a breach of your agreement or what you think could be a hostile work environment. Or maybe you just disagree about the direction a project is going and you're not sure you want to be involved any more. Perhaps circumstances, you, or your needs have changed.
Before you walk away from people and opportunities you like (or at least once liked), you want to see if there's a way to renegotiate or clarify responsibilities. You don't want to sue (or breach the agreement and get sued), but you're frustrated, if not resigned. This really isn't how you want to live your life.
You could run away or keep ignoring the situation, but how far can you really go, and how likely is the situation to resolve itself? Do you want to wait indefinitely? Wouldn't it be great if you could approach the conflict like a master and co-create a solution that restored the happy relationship you had when you entered it?
That's certainly what we aim to do with the Third Ear Conflict Resolution process. In a typical mediation, Nance integrates her legal knowledge with her pre-law skills, such as her experience negotiating around salary caps in minor league hockey contracts. She loves to help parties determine what they truly need and value. Then, they work toward a mutually beneficial settlement agreement that can be enforced in court, if one of the parties fails to fulfill on something they agreed to.
Similar to arbitration and other Private Conflict Resolution Services, features of mediation include:
- A private conference room setting
- A schedule set by the parties
- A mediator chosen by the parties
- A single-case calendar
- A faster-moving "docket"
However, there are some unique benefits to mediation, including: empowerment, improved communication, relationship repair, and self-discovery. Mediation is a facilitative, holistic, and integrative process that allows you to control costs, customize solutions, and expedite resolution--on your timeline and terms.
Are you still not sure if mediation is the process you want to use to resolve your dispute? You might also find the below offerings helpful:
- Conflict Resolution Coaching services and blog posts
- DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of a Master
- The Third Ear Conflict Resolution audio program
- Blog posts on Mediation & Restorative Justice
NOTE: This post is a general overview of mediation. It is not legal advice, and there is certainly no guarantee that your case will see any of the features and benefits detailed above or that they will generate a similar or specific result. Past success is never a guarantee of a future outcome. If you require information or advice applied to your unique situation, please make an appointment to discuss it with an attorney. Don't rely solely on what you read on the Internet.